How to Embrace the Raw Beauty of Your Woman

How to Embrace the Raw Beauty of Your Woman

By Joshua Rivers

Go back to the first time you were attracted to your woman. What was it? Was it that sparkle in her eyes? Was it the comfort in her smile, or the warmth of her presence? Could it have been that the picturesque figure of hers that drove the mind of your eyes insane? Whatever it was, you must admit; it was such an effortless beauty in what you saw that drove you to an urging attraction to her. It was something in the rawness of her external nature that made you pay attention; it captivated your mind and heart, and you just had to have her. And once you had her, the experience of being with her was one of fresh air. You valued every word that graced her lips. Her concerns became your priorities, and her lap became the place in which you rested from the battles of the world.

However, as time goes on, the sparkle becomes more of a flash. The comfort seems to become a more familiar, and the warmth seems to be replaced by cold shoulders and hot tempers. Suddenly, you find yourself questioning what you saw. You begin asking yourself about that raw beauty; that effortless attractiveness and eye splendor you’ve experienced in the beginning. And let’s be raw; you don’t know when or if it will ever come back. Where has it gone?

You ever heard the phrase, “beauty is in the eye of the beholder?” Well, that’s the answer to your question. It isn’t so much what happened to your mate; it’s more of what happened to you. What happened during the course of your relationship that now distorts your perception of your woman?

 Get this; when you see particular paintings, you notice their beauty, for specific and unique reasons. But over time, that same painting isn’t as beautiful to you. Now, is it the painting’s fault that what you see isn’t as appealing to you as it was before? No; something changed within your perception that caused you to depreciate that painting’s beauty!

Our relationships are so very similar. Many times, we as men are looking at the same raw beauty of our women but it’s through the lens of time and circumstance. And we unfairly compare how they used to be against how they are now, forgetting that circumstances played a part in how she got to her current state. Most importantly, we minimize the role we’ve played or lack thereof. Her figure isn’t the same after having YOUR baby. Her attitude may be off because of something you aren’t doing. And instead of asking or communicating with our mates, we arrogantly exclaim, ‘Man, she ain’t the same no more’ when it should be, ‘What is it in my perception that I can change to help see my woman like I used to?’ That last question is hard because it deals with owning responsibility, but it is necessary. It helps us to embrace our women for who they truly are, and recapture that raw beauty that ever so captivated us in the beginning.

I want to give you four keys to embracing the raw beauty of your woman. They are as follows:

• Listen. Listen. LISTEN. Communicate to your woman your concerns, and allow her to do most of the talking. Only then will you understand her reasoning for your concerns.
• Openness. There may be some things she says that hurt like hell. Take them. Allow her to get them out, because it may not be easy for her.
• Victory. Always keep this in the back of your mind. The key is victory in your relationship. NOT your feelings. Be willing to take a broken pride for a healthy relationship.
• Expectations. At the end of your discussion, ask her what she would like to see from you, and discuss with her what would make you perceive her better.

These principles are built upon a foundation of love. As God loves you, you love her. Communicate with Him your concerns, and allow Him to use these guidelines to steer you toward a new perspective in your love and appreciation for your mate. It is only when the Master Painter is consulted about his painting, that we can rediscover the beauty of the painting we initially noticed. Well, the painter is God, and the painting is your woman. And she’s worth rediscovering.